If Self-control Is That Important, How Does Meditation Cultivate It?
Self-control is perhaps one of the most less talked of virtues in self-development. I mean everyone subtly knows about it but that is it.
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Self-control is perhaps one of the most less talked of virtues in self-development. I mean everyone subtly knows about it but that is it.
What do people do when they need to build a house? They buy land and cut down all the plants that are on their way to make an empty space. What do I do when I start cooking? I clean everything off the kitchen table to make space for cutting boards and veggies. What do you do when you want to fall in love? You empty your heart from the previous lover to open it to a new experience.
With the pace of life speeding up every day, we really like the word “productive”. We prefer to be productive in everything, including our weekends, our private life. If you think about it, do we really need to “produce” so much?
Loving is the best action we can take in life. Love is directly opposite to fear, and when we choose to love, this helps us get rid of our fears. Place little reminders of love in your life and you will transform yourself from the inside and others will follow.
Years ago, when I was in a yoga class, we were asked ‘How much attention do you pay to your hands and feet?’ The instructor went on to remind us that our hands and feet worked for us day after day. But did we ever thank them? Did we ever express our gratitude?
Don’t you just love those days when you feel like you have grown wings and you are hopping around between different tasks, having perfect concentration and completing everything in no time? And you don’t just stop when you get off from work, but continue finishing the month’s long To Do list of your household chores, doing exercise and being excited and happy?
How can you make each day of your life be this lively and energetic?
One important factor in our lives is our possessions, our thoughts, our feelings and perceptions. Actually, we hold on to these elements so much that we believe they make us who are. We often say or hear people say “this is just who I am, or “I cannot stand this person or that.”
The dynamics of a meaningful relationship are rarely easy to portray. Each of us has a unique understanding of what a relationship means. Be it with friends, partners or even work colleagues, we spend time trying to find the appropriate person who can tick all the items on our wish list. What if what we expect from people could actually become what we offer? What would become possible if we were to give to others what we await from them?
When I was a teenager I had a friend that wouldn’t take much care of herself. Eating properly or doing exercise weren’t part of her daily practice. Instead, she used to have unhealthy habits like smoking a lot. However, she was always taking very much care of her aspect. Looking great was an important thing that made her feel good.