Emotional Intelligence: a secret to happiness

One of the precious gifts a human being can have is the ability to have a strong willpower to love, care and accept situations as they come without questioning why they seem the way they are. It is something agreeable, and no doubt, our natural well-being can succumb to emotional ups and downs, showing different reactions and responding to both good and bad situations. Emotional intelligence is one such precious ways of averting conflict and living a happy and humble lifestyle that can potentially motivate others around us.

If we take a glance and stay calm enough, we realise that there is only one way of overcoming the challenges that we face – and that is emotional intelligence. Although many people have diverse theories and conspiracies about what emotional intelligence entails, in general, it is someone’s ability to evaluate, identify and control your emotions so that you better understand the emotions of others around you and relate with them in a peaceful and harmonious manner. It is this skill that is somewhat more natural and instilled within humanity and usually goes untapped in all the efforts to enjoy individual peace and mutual coexistence.

How can we have emotional intelligence and the ability to sustain it?

Self-Awareness: There is a general saying that you will not know where you are going if you are unable to know where you are. That is basically the same with emotional intelligence. The first area of concern is self-discovery and self-awareness. Knowing our strengths and weaknesses is very vital to deal with such situations when our soft spots are tempered or triggered. This also includes our ability to know things or acts that can easily expose us to stress, discomfort and unhappiness. Dealing with your stress appropriately instead of letting it control you will have you living a much easier, happier life.

Conscious Communication Skills: It is often said, “wars of this world were often caused by words left unspoken or spoken”, which brings to the issue of proper communication particularly with others. Our ability to manage and control our speech helps in controlling our inner state of emotions. No matter how we have wronged someone or have been wronged, happy or unhappy; the way we communicate ourselves is very significant in shaping our emotions, as well as how others respond to us. The five acts of self-discipline also cement the rationale behind peaceful speech towards the attainment of individual peace and that of our surrounding. Our emotional fragmentation can sometimes accumulate through guilt, anger and inferiority complex exacerbated by what we say about ourselves and others. The question is: how do we overcome this and generate emotional intelligence?

The answer: being with ourselves.

So often, we become emotional with what is happening within ourselves, families, workplace, and our countries, as well as in global trends and dynamics. We are so emotionally eager to change the status quo, but so often we do not know how. The answer is YOU. When you create positive energy, habits and self-restrictions to be yourself, develop self-reflective moments alone (INNER PEACE MOMENTS), you are able to realise that at times we want to fight wars that are not ours instead of fighting the inner conflicted self in dealing with life situations; that is the essence of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

3 Steps to Change Bad Habits

All people have bad habits. This is something natural that is observed in everyone. Regardless of our principles and lifestyle, we become accustomed to certain behaviours even if they do not favour our socio-professional development. Here are three steps that may help you change these bad habits.

1) Recognize 

Bad habits are sometimes difficult to recognize. This is because we have taken the time to incorporate these behaviours into our life and our way of being with others. The recognition of our bad habits therefore depends on the types of people we often live with. Because a certain habit can be accepted in one society and be rejected in another, it is also important to consider common sense and trust conventions: there are behaviors that are not accepted and are automatically rejected according to universal standards. So in order to recognize bad habits, one can ask the following questions: Am I proud of this habit? Does this or that behaviour meet the standards of my society? Am I satisfied with the results I get in my life? Does my conscience reproach me for something after this or that behaviour?

Behaviors become habits by repeating them daily. Sometimes they become so familiar that they are hard to recognize. When we ask ourselves the mentioned questions, it helps us see our bad habits in order to correct them. Another way to recognize our bad habits is to pay attention to the opinions of the people we live or work with.

2) Self-discipline

Once our bad habits are identified, we can look for the right way to change or correct them. It can be difficult to do if we do not really make a decision to take an action and change the behaviors that we took years to develop. Getting up early in the morning at 5am may seem like a chore for someone who has spent his whole life waking up at 7am. The same is true for an individual who is always late, eats in the bed, sleeps without taking a shower, puts his house in disorder, smokes cigarettes or goes home late at night. It takes self-discipline to change these habits. Start doing things differently by considering the impact or positive outcome that we will have when we are successful in becoming a new person – that is another way of changing bad habits. Most human beings are aware of their bad habits, because the harmful effects of these habits always manifest in their lives in one way or another. But without true commitment and sustained self-discipline, we often fail to change them.

3) Meditate

Meditation is an important personal development tool in changing bad habits. People who meditate develop a very high sensitivity and are able to easily identify bad habits in themselves. Without much effort, they usually manage to discipline themselves in order to achieve their goals. By questioning themselves, these people are able to accept observations or comments about their behaviors in order to change what others do not like about them. These are highly friendly people with a firm humility. That’s because they evaluate themselves very frequently to identify their bad habits and concrete on actions to  change them.

You can consider learning to meditate with PEACE REVOLUTION  platform that offers free online courses of personal development through the practice of mindfulness and meditation. This could be a good start to recognize and change your bad habits.

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