NO To Pessimism

In my language Kirundi, we say “Ntawutanga ico adafise” which means, you cannot give what you don’t have. This is similar to how Peace Revolution project envisions peacebuilding  with its PIPO  (Peace In – Peace Out) concept, putting emphasis on cultivating inner peace first before spreading peace to the outer world.

I have been receiving invitations to participate in various peace conferences by different organizations involved in peace building, but one important question that arises is: what are those conferences aiming at? According to my understanding, such conferences are meant for teaching techniques and strategies on how to become a peace activist in one’s community and surrounding. There is nothing bad in that, but if participants are not taught techniques and strategies on how to find peace from within, we can’t expect any sustainable peace. However, if we have inner peace, we spread it to our surroundings from one individual to another. The more this process expands, the more we move towards a sustainable world peace. Therefore, PIPO concept becomes one of the most effective strategies in communities’ peace building.

Moreover, as peace comes from within, so does pessimism and negativity. Imagine, when the mind accumulates a junk of negativity and pessimism, the entire world becomes negative and the subject becomes pessimist. This can happen to anybody in certain difficult moments of their life. Yet, we deserve a healthy, peaceful and happy life which we can only get from a positive mindset. On this note, I would like to share some interesting tips from Henrik Edberg’s Positivity Blog that would help us overcome pessimism and negativity inviting more peace and calm in our life:

1) Start replacing negativity in your surroundings and life: What you let into your mind during your regular day will have a big effect on how you think and feel. So, start questioning what you let come into your mind.

2) Stop making mountains out of a molehill: The easiest way to ground yourself in a situation where you start to sense that you may be making a mountain out of a molehill is to zoom out a bit on your life by using a question like: will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks?

3) Be grateful for a few of the things you may often take for granted: When your lens (that you view your daily life through) is tinted in a negative way, it is easy to miss the things you can actually be grateful for. Take a minute as you get out of bed in the morning or get into it in the evening and put your attention on a few such things of which you can be thankful for: three steady meals a day; a roof over my head; my caring family, friends, etc. You’ll find many of them that you hadn’t thought before.

4) Come back to this moment (and stay here): When you’re on a train of negative thoughts, you’re often thinking about something that you could or should have done or said. Or you’re thinking about something that could happen. Or maybe a mix of the two of them as a past experience or two build a monster in your mind about what the future may bring. To get out of any of those places, snap back into this moment – to what is right here, right now.

5) Get a positive start to your day: The first few things you do in the morning often set the tone for your entire day. If you get off to a negative or pessimistic start, it can be quite hard to shake those feelings or perspective. But if you get your morning off to a positive start, then it becomes a lot easier to stay with that emotion and the optimism all the way to the evening and bedtime.

Conclusion

Just like peace and happiness, also pessimism and negativity come from within, from the mind. The condition of the mind is actually what determines the view of the world. Hence, mind needs to be consistently taken care of. And this can be done through various strategies and techniques, among which, we highlighted some of the important ones in this article.

How I started my Journey to Inner peace

Light of peace.

How does it feel to ask for something and then, somehow, in some way,  it’s given to you?  How does it feel when you just need it and then you have it? How does it feel when your inner voice is heard by the universe that conspires to make you accomplished? What if what you asked for wasn’t a lot of money or fame but only peace and stillness of the mind in the middle of a life full of stress, wars, anxiety and selfishness? This is the story of my journey to inner peace at Heya Fellowship.

“I want to rest! I need a rest.”

I remember myself in the staff room in the hospital I do my training in. I was tired, out of breath, thinking about how I have to see the patients, then go to the university for my master degree exams before meeting my professor for my PhD. Afterwards, I would go home to find the house shores waiting for me and in the middle of all this not forget to call my family to make sure everybody is doing alright. Later I would meet my friends because I have a social life too. While thinking, I felt exhausted and I closed my eyes and said a prayer: “I want to rest! I need a rest. “

An opportunity to rest and learn

The same evening while on social media I came across a  link of the “Heya Fellowship “by Peace Revolution. The name gave me the curiosity to learn more about it over the internet. A self development program; meditating everyday while listening to the calm voice of the peaceful inspiring meditation professor through accessible videos on the platform; having a coach to share my daily unique experience of meditation, was new to me. And here it began, a new experience of life, a new vision, like diving into the unknown but the safe secure unknown that was getting clearer day after day.

After getting engaged with the program, I was honored to participate in the Heya Fellowship, the peace retreat for women from The MENA region.  Despite all the challenges that I faced in the process of travelling; there was a force that made everything possible for me to get to Georgia. It was like a power from above was helping arrange everything. Because I believe that things get attracted to you in the same way you are attracted to them. And if you want something so much, you will absolutely have it.

Meeting strange beautiful women I knew before

I arrived in Georgia and once there, met beautiful strong women, the other participants. I was so familiar to them as if I knew them a long time ago. It didn’t take so long for us to connect, laugh and share ideas together. We shared about our stories,  our experiences in life, where we came from, and our inner peace journey.

The first day was wonderful getting to know better the MENA women. Then the adventure just began. They took our cell phones as expected. Yes; its bliss to take a break from being always contactable and accessible on social media. When you come to Heya, you are here to rest, to know yourself better, to leave the past behind, and get into your journey to inner peace. Whenever you miss someone, you would see this person in your mind, your heart, your dreams, in the zone that no one can have access to except you. This is a zone you have neglected a good time of your life. The zone which is your inner self, inside and always there when everything is gone.

Each day at the retreat center

With no electronic devices, we woke up every day at 5 am to meditate in the sweet fresh breeze of the green garden of the scout center we were staying in. At this time, while listening to the birds singing gratefully to the beginning of a new day, I could feel the air and the light, it felt like swimming. During the meditation, you just have no weight, you are like a feather, like a butterfly. Then came the yoga class, stretching the muscles of the body, all of them, even the tiny little ones always forgotten in the crowded days of life. They are all breathing, happy to be there with you and to be felt. Then we would have breakfast in the dining room, full of energy, full of love, full of power to share. We would face each other, smiling as we shared delicious food that we brought each one from our country. Each day, every day, one amazing lady would presents to us the sweets she brought, its name and how it can be made.

Afterwards each day brought with it energizing activities, women circles and other meditation sessions full of calmness, relief, belief in peace, life, love, and every good value of this life offered. The women were like angels. Every time one of them would say unforgettable words to empower, encourage, and make us stronger. With each word, we became more confident, filled with the love of life and new way of seeing life afresh.

The little girl grew up

I was a little girl before joining the Peace Revolution meditation retreat. During the retreat, I grew up. The two unstoppable invincible women Aseel and Nesreen made the retreat magical and successful. They taught me how to be active, well organized, and ambitious. The greatness of what they were doing and how they were conscious of it did a lot inside of me. Further, every woman, especially Jehan with her spirit and her lectures and also late night stories just lifted me up like Helium.

LP Pasura our teaching monk made the retreat insightful. He was like a godfather to us, full of wisdom, experiences of life, intelligence and eloquence. His ability to let us express all what was inside of us brought the best of everyone of us. He gave us lectures, guided us through meditation sessions, answered our questionings, our fears and anxieties. This gave us the relief that we could shout loud and scream all what was inside of us and turn it into a light of peace, goodness and share.

Guidelines to nurture inner peace at the retreat

In those five days, we were followed eight acts of self discipline:

  • Do not kill or hurt any creature even the tiniest one
  • Do not steal or use what is not your belonging
  • Do not use intoxicants, alcohol or drugs
  • Do not involve in romantic or sexual relationships
  • Do not speak too loud or too much
  • Do not use electronic devices like phone cells
  • Do not eat heavy meals after 12:30 pm
  • Do not use make up or dress extravagantly

Those acts helped us be more of who we are, basic like babies, a pure reminder of how we can be in everyday life.

The five days of self discovery, inner peace, heart centered talks, being free from material things that owe us, passed so fast like a beautiful dream. With each passing day, the little girl who used to do everything without feeling it just because it has to be done, has started to feel every single breath and every movement she makes. She is finding peace inside of her and beginning and feeling engaged to spread it to everybody else.

My final lesson to you, dear peaceful soul reading my inner peace journey

  • Truly be who you are even if you are different in an acceptable way. You are just special. You are magical. You are invincible and you are not chocolate you can not satisfy everyone and you are not supposed to be trying to do so.
  • Do everything in your life mindfully, do not let life pass you by, feel every little thing you are doing.
  • Be grateful everyday because every day is a new chance for you to be who you want to be, to make the world a better place.
  • Find peace within yourself and spread it to the whole world.
  • Believe in yourself, in the good inside of every human being, have faith in humanity, it can be saved, it can be better.
  • It’s a magical life every day, every moment, feel it and live it fully.

Pourquoi devons-nous être en paix avec les autres?

Il y a quelques années de cela, j’ai eu une altercation avec un ami que j’appellerai «Aris» pour l’occasion. A cette époque j’appelais cela de la «trahison» venant de sa part; mais aujourd’hui, j’appellerai cela une «épreuve» destinée à me forger. De quoi s’agit-il en réalité? Envie de connaître la suite de mon histoire? Pourquoi devons-nous être en paix avec les autres? Lisez cet article. pour le découvrir.

L’histoire
L’amitié entre nous était telle que nous ne passions pas plus de deux jours sans prendre réciproquement de nos nouvelles. Mais avec l’altercation, nous avions coupé tout contact pendant pratiquement 6 mois. Un jour, morte d’ennui, je parcourais mon répertoire quand je suis tombée sur le nom «Aris». Je n’ai pas pu m’empêcher de ressentir un pincement au cœur. Sur le coup et surtout parce que son amitié me manquait, je l’ai appelé et nous avions repris contact, pas sans discuter du sujet de discorde. Ce n’est qu’à ce moment que je sus qu’il avait plusieurs fois pris son téléphone avec l’intention d’appeler pour s’excuser, mais se résignait toujours par fierté. Nos relations étaient alors devenues plus fluides. Plus tard, c’est lui, qui m’a permis d’obtenir le plus gros contrat à ce jour pour mon entreprise en ligne.

Etre en paix avec les autres nourrit et agrandit notre paix avec nous-mêmes. Si au fond de moi je n’ai aucune sorte de différent avec un tiers, je n’ai pas de quoi m’inquiéter. Je suis libre, dégagé en mon fort intérieur. Mieux, préserver la paix dans nos liens avec les autres nous permet dans un futur proche ou lointain, de n’avoir aucune difficulté à profiter de cette relation pour gagner facilement ce que nous aurions eu du mal à obtenir autrement.

En se référant donc à mon précédent article qui traitait du fait d’être en paix avec soi-même, on se rend aisément compte que ces deux situations s’impliquent et s’équivalent.

Les bienfaits de la paix avec les autres
En termes plus succincts, retenons ceci:
– lorsqu’on est en paix avec soi-même, on est en paix avec les autres;
– lorsqu’on est en paix avec les autres, notre paix intérieure s’accroît;
– on ne peut être en paix avec nous-mêmes si nous ne sommes pas en paix avec les autres; et
– on ne peut être en paix avec les autres, si d’abord nous ne sommes pas en paix avec nous-mêmes.

Le concept PIPO
La relation entre la paix avec soi-même et la paix avec les autres constitue l’un des fondements du concept PIPO. Il est question d’une réciprocité que la Fondation WORLD PEACE INITIATIVE à travers son projet PEACE REVOLUTION dénomme « P.I.P.O » (Peace In – Peace Out), c’est-à-dire Paix Intérieure – Paix Extérieure. Ce qui signifie que l’on ne peut donner ce que l’on ne possède pas et que l’on ne peut être en paix avec les autres sans d’abord découvrir sa propre paix.

Si vous voulez toucher du doigt et vivre (littéralement) ce dont il s’agit, je vous invite vivement à postuler commencer votre programme de développement personnel en ligne sur le site www.peacerevolution.net.

How 8 Minute Meditation Became 2 Hours Inner Peace Time

I remember the first time I heard about meditation. It was a joke among some people making fun of those who believed in meditation and the way to inner peace. I got curious. So I started searching and looking for the answer to find out whether those meditators were really shallow, crazy hippies as some call them or there was something real in there.

The First Feeling

By coincidence I came across the book “8 Minute Meditation” written by Victor Davich. 8 minutes? Just sitting there in a secluded place with closed eyes. Is this even possible? 

I closed my eyes and went on a trip through my mind, and it was amazing. For a year I was following the 8 minute meditation till someone on the other side of the world was packing bags to visit Egypt, the south of Aswan to do her first meditation retreat called MINA (peace in a local language). It was a complete sweet coincidence to come across the ad about the event “MINA meditation retreat”.

Inspiring Yana

And there I met her – Yana Yaneva, a very strong lady from Bulgaria, who inspires me personally. Yana is a certified meditation trainer and has travelled around the world, quitting the routine life and recovering from life wounds, and sharing her inner light with everyone regardless of their race, colour, genre and religion. Together we went through two days of inner peace time (meditation sessions), yoga and other peaceful activities, such as helping locals in their daily life with cleaning. Different people from different backgrounds could smoothly melt in each other, forming beautiful human reflections while our mobile phones stayed switched off to keep away from the daily hassle that we go through in our lives.

Morning meditation session followed by inspiring reflections.

 

Helping with water

Helping the locals to get their daily water supply. Peace in Peace out.

One of the most remarkable experiences happened while visiting a nice island in the Nile River. The island has no water station, and the locals have to hike almost 3 kilometres ascending and descending to get their daily need of water. Some of us cried learning this, and others experienced a new form of humanity, new form of life.

Yana’s inspiring talks and listening to the reflections have helped me continue my inner peace journey, later travelling to Thailand for a meditation training, then becoming a meditation coach to help my family, friends and everyone to know more about meditation and inner peace.

I want to thank everyone from Peace Revolution Community (Mirette Bahgat & Aya AbdelRahim) for hosting the retreat and helping Yana Yaneva deliver the message of peace to the peace seekers.

Planting the Roots of Happiness and Peace

AM I HAPPY?

I have always considered myself to be lucky. I was born in a loving family, I’ve never had health issues, I’ve always enjoyed the company of great friends, I’ve been able to pursue the career I chose and I ‘ve had the opportunity to develop all the hobbies I dreamt of. However, many times I struggled to be happy like if having all these things wasn’t enough. Continue reading “Planting the Roots of Happiness and Peace”

Peace In, Peace Out in Bangladesh with South Asian Youth Society

They say “you cannot find peace in Google as peace is inside”. Once we have established peace within ourselves we can spread it to our surroundings. This is the premise behind the inner peace workshop arranged by South Asian Youth Society (SAYS) on 2nd of October 2014 at the EMK Center, Dhaka. The event Peace In, Peace Out was a unique initiative by any youth group in Bangladesh as it incorporated lectures and guided meditation as a means to cultivate inner peace.

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HAPPY: TO BE OR NOT TO BE?

Lithuania

At some point of life many of us encounter existential questions. We rush like crazy trying to find the answers right now, right here, always somewhere outside: in books, in advices, in money, work or parties. We fight to get these answers and become angry, unhappy, lost. Sometimes we even give up and go with the flow. It feels like being one of those hamsters running in a lump. But the truth is, that the answers come whenever we stop seeking for them, when we calm down and look at ourselves from aside.

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Africa, in Building Peace We Come as One

Amani Fellowship Peace Revolution

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has,” reckons Margaret Mead. The Amani Revolution Tour is the living proof of Mead’s belief. Between the 28th of March and the 30th of April, young leaders from six African countries came together, united by their commitment to transforming the ideal of building sustainable world peace into a tangible reality.

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