5 lessons from day 10 of my 90 days integrity challenge

The first quarter of the year is gone!

In March 2018, I realized that the first quarter of 2018 was quickly coming to an end. I thought of the resolutions I made and the progress so far and wondered what happened.

“We make such huge chunks of our goals as long as they seem far out of reach, don’t we?” I thought.

After attending The Landmark Forum, one of the bucket lists for my 2018, I came right into contact with integrity.

Honor your self before anything or anyone else

Integrity in this new sense has nothing to do with being a good person, or a person of morality. In fact, it’s the opposite, getting comfortable with being a “bad” person.

What has goodness and badness got to do with life anyway? So, let’s get those words out of this space for now.

Good and bad is an impression we make and try to keep in the face of others. Integrity, on the other hand, is waking up to honor the commitments and words we make with ourselves and our values.

So, take a moment and recall…

How many times do you honor the commitments you make to others? Keeping time, working, among others? And now, how many times do we honor the commitments we make to ourselves? To wake up at a certain time, to meditate a certain number of times a day?

From my evaluation, I had become an expert at trying to impress others by honoring their expectations of me and not honoring the commitments I made with myself.

Results?

My resolutions never get done.

I am always busy working and never having a time to rest and do things that matter to me.

What’s my predictable future by December 2018? A few resolutions, no major progress and a ton of excuses at why I didn’t do the things I set to do.

So, in 90, I am changing all these and setting a new template to honor myself and be authentic to myself, Period!

It’s day 10; here are 5 lessons I have gathered so far:

  1.  There is a difference between an interested fellow and a committed one.

Interest does not get you far, commitment; telling yourself you shall do it and feeling the impact send shivers down your spine is what I call commitment. Its actually deeper than that. Getting centered and feeling awakened by your decision and desire for change!

2. Integrity is not a destination

We don’t end up saying I am all full of integrity and now ready to face the world. Honoring ourselves is not a destination, it’s a way of life. It’s a moment by moment decision making that gets you waking up when you need to meditate, it gets you taking a glass of water to meditate more, or run 6 miles when you are tired and need to stop. It’s a way of life!

3. Enjoy this journey

90 days isn’t long, and people easily forget to the beauty of this moment. Any challenge is not much about the finishing line (even though the sweet sign of a victory is delicious) as it is in the sweet victories of recognizing that you are beginning to get it and its working in your life with delight! Enjoy, have fun, laugh at yourself, and let go!

4. Journal every step of the way!

I am writing down my experiences of this journey and guess what is coming up, a mindfulness and focus journal! Each day, I uncover a new layer that is becoming clearer. In fact, by end of April, the journal will be ready for use by anyone who wishes to embark on a challenge of integrity and mindfulness focus. I love writing and writer do what they love. You don’t have to love writing to journal. That is why I am creating a journal that will be suitable to anyone who loves journaling or not; because its fun to look back, see what you did, laugh at yourself, see a clearer vision and write it down!

5. Just Start

Oh, I find blog posts such as this very boring. I mean you read read and read and smile and say “nice” and even share, but unless you look at your life and just make a simple change NOW, its all nothing. So, just start. Perhaps you want to start by sharing what came up for you as you read through?

Its your turn!

You can reach me on Facebook to get more info of the 90 days challenge!

 

Lean in, Stand out!

Things to Remember When Life Gets Tough

We all have experienced difficult times in life. What’s more, we as a whole overcome them. However, some show more signs of improvements than others. What is their secret? A large portion of it needs to do with the attitude. Moreover, we need to develop good mental habits to attain peaceful minds. Here are a few things to recall when life gets tough:

1. Finding the Root Cause

Misery happens when humans oppose the way things are in reality. In case, you can change something, make a strong move and change it. In case, you cannot change things, you have two options (a) acknowledge it and let it go (b) resign yourself by fixating on it. Opting one of these options will help you accept the things you can change and the things you cannot. Whatever the dilemmas you go through, balancing life will be the appropriate option to achieve a peaceful life.

2. Creating Positive Viewpoint

The fact is – we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is truly dependent on our viewpoint. If you think something is an issue, your thoughts and feelings will be negative. But if you believe it is something you can learn from, it is not an issue any longer.

3. Start Changing Yourself

Your external world is a reflection of your inner world. Do you know people whose lives are clamorous and stressful? Isn’t it to a great extent that they feel disorganised inside? We get a kick out of the chance to imagine that changing our conditions will transform us. In fact, it’s the other way round – we have to change ourselves first before our living conditions will change for us.

3. Everything is Learning

You should simply wipe out ‘disappointment’ from your vocabulary. All extraordinary people who have ever accomplished something have ‘failed’ again and again. It was Thomas Edison who said: “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just found 99 different ways that did not work”. Take back your so-called ‘failures’ and try learning something new from them rather than feeling disappointed. Figure out how to improve next time.

4. Believe that Something Better is yet to Happen

Sometimes it is hard to accept if things don’t go the way you wanted. When you glance back at your life, you will have the capacity to perceive any reason why it was really something to be thankful for rather than something that did not work out. Maybe the job you failed to get would have influenced you to invest more time away from your family, however, the job you got allowed you to be more flexible. Simply have confidence that everything happens the way it should.

5. Cherish the Present Moment

This moment will never return. There is always something valuable in each minute. So don’t let it pass by. Before long it will simply be a memory one day. Even minutes that don’t appear to be pleasant can be looked upon as something that you may miss some time in the future. As the down-home tune by Trace Adkins says, “You are going to miss this. You are going to need this back. You are going to wish nowadays hadn’t passed by so quick. You may not know this now, but rather you are going to miss this for sure…”

Everything is temporary in this wicked life. Push yourself a little more to improve your life and attain a peaceful mind.

One of the life’s most noteworthy endowments is that life is troublesome. Because in managing life’s troubles, we assemble precious quality. This quality empowers us to effectively satisfy our most profound, most significant purposes. It is decisively on the grounds that life is troublesome that we can make it extraordinary. It is on the grounds that life is troublesome that we can transcend the challenges. We can have any kind of effect and we can really matter.

Amani Oh! Amani – A Peace Quest From Africa – Part 3

I know, I know, I went AWOL for a while. Not to worry, I’m back!

Before I proceed, let me take this moment to apologise for not accounting much for time and dates in my Amani Series. I went through a couple of days without comprehending or having a feel of time. I later managed to acquire a watch and small alarm clock and things got better, time-wise. Continue reading “Amani Oh! Amani – A Peace Quest From Africa – Part 3”

Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.

The very first time when I heard about meditation happened many years ago when I was 16. I had been introduced to the world of deeper understanding, although back then I have been too young to comprehend. I remember that I was attracted by this secret power called meditation. People who meditated seemed to be so different. But I wasn’t sure If I was curious or opened enough to learn more. Continue reading “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

Meditation, not as a task but as a need.

One of my friends asked me to take a look at the peace revolution web page, as a new thing it made me curious. I registered and watched the first video and answered the questions carefully. I went to my friend, who introduced me this website, and I asked a lot of questions about what I should do. Did as I’ve been told to and I was somehow happy about it. I was on my twenty-seventh session when I got Mena Salam III fellowship mail. I applied for it. Continue reading “Meditation, not as a task but as a need.”